Daily we can see people proclaiming there love out load in the bulletins, or other announcing their marriage with pump and circumstances, and it always make me a bit scared, especially when it concerns dear friends. Don’t misunderstand me I have the deepest respect for any of my friends, going on the emo tour, but it’s the virtual aspect of it that scares me off.
We don’t have to forget that in RLC, IMVU, SL or any other 3D world; we are always a mouse click away from the black screen. (= a spilt)
As already so much people said before me, all this virtual worlds are not just “games” but they are an exchange of emotions between people of flesh and blood sitting behind a keyboard. So it’s not as innocent as we generally think.
It’s also a kind of a drug: it fades away the real world and becomes easily addictive. So as drugs it can cause a lot of damage on the long run.
Sometimes somebody disappear from RLC and it makes us sad as we loose a loved one. If it is to an other 3D world, it must be not such a good friend or lover, as he or she had other options then the relationship with you and other RLC friends.
We also regret when an other friend leaves for the real world. That is something we have to face in every situations. On second thought it’s perhaps the person who leave, who comes to her (or his) senses again, as she or he choose for the real thing instead of the virtual relation.
Virtual marriage is one step further. I am not sure to get the meaning of it. If in real live it’s only a written commitment (contract) to protect and consolidate (?) a couple’s live in an administrative way, in a virtual relationship it can only be a sign to the circle of friends about a close relationship. In a lot of cases these “official” relations fade away and you never heard from them again. We always forget one thing: RLC is one big Passion Pit, where on every corner you can run into the partner of your dreams (at least according to his or her profile), so the temptation is everywhere. In virtual live there are no boundaries and the mind is strong but the flesh is week.
RLC is a wonderful place for making friends and having fun, if you like to go further, you always need to keep one foot in the real world. If you are so caught by this world, I advice you from time to time to look at the back of your screen, there is nobody, that is one of the advantages of the real world, where you can really touch somebody, kiss and make love.
Oh yes, I forgot to mention some of you who take the risk to link virtual and real world. Personally I am against it (I know what I am talking about, I did it ones) In most of cases that step is a deception, as we all “improve” a bit our personality here in RLC and the circumstances of real live also affect our live. Sometimes, in very rare cases it works, but it needs a compromise, a lot more then you have to in a 100% real live experience, as you have to fight the fantasies you earlier build up during your virtual relation.
As I already said in other issues, this is my personal view, but it’s also a little advice to my close friends. I don’t want them to get hurt. We all come here to meet friends, exchange ideas and having fun. If it’s for sorrow I think real live bring that enough already.
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